>> 你家里的情况跟别人的不太一样，小孩会不会受影响？Your family may be a little bit different from others, are your children affected by such difference?
Since my children were little, I explained to them the relationship between them and their fathers, and between each of them. So they don’t feel inferior at all. When their friends or the public look at them in a different way, my children will not be affected by them. Especially my son, sometimes his friends would tell him that they searched about me on the Internet and found a lot of news. My son would replied them “So what? That’s just how the media works. They’re just creating stories. I know how my family is like, so I don’t think I will be affected by how you look at me.” The same goes to my daughter, she is even more confident. Sometimes her friend will ask her, “How many fathers do you have? Why do you have so many fathers?”. Because I always tell my children that they have three fathers, the first one is God, the second is my current husband, and the third is their father. So they are very blessed and happy children. Because they don’t have only one father, they have three! This is what I believe in and what my children believe in. This is what I chose to teach them. So no worries, everyone is happy!
>> 身为单亲妈妈，有没有遇到什么困难？如何面对？Did you face any obstacles as a single mother? How did you cope?
Being a single mother is certainly not easy, because you have to be both a mother and a father. It was especially tough when I gave birth to my first son. I was only 19 years’ old and considered a teenage mother with no financial capability. Others looked at me in a different way because of my appearance. Thank God, I still look pretty young right? So at that time, 17 years ago, I look even younger. That’s why people always judged me, questioning why I give birth at such a young age? I have become stronger with all these experiences. I don’t care what others think of me, as long as I’m doing my job as a good mother.
So, how did I get through that period? At that time, I just joined the Singapore Armed Forces Music & Drama Company. My parents helped me as a babysitter, taking care of my eldest son. They also helped me financially. When I gave birth to my second child, my daughter Kaka, I was still a single mother. I had a little savings at that time. However, I was going through a minor depression because I was troubled over the fact that I became a single mother again. But just when my second child was born, I also accepted the Lord, that is my faith, I am a Christian. Because of my belief, I was able to live strong. From there, I understand more about life, why things happen, what should I do when it happens? Should I feel inferior? What should I do? No matter what, I have to live on because my child. Kids are innocent.
>>你觉得小孩子最重要的品德是什么？What are the most important values that you want your children to have?
我希望我的孩子们长大了能够待人诚恳，做人要老实，脚踏实地，出人头地，最最最重要的是他们要有勇气去面对任何事情。做错事有那个勇气去道歉，不管是好事还是坏事，都要有勇气，勇敢地去面对，这样子才能过得开心。最后我当然也是希望，我每次都是用英文来讲，I hope you can be a blessing to others. Be blessed enough to bless others. 你本身收到够多的祝福，来去祝福人家。那是最幸福的一件事。
I hope that my children will grow up to be sincere, honest, down-to-earth, and to be a leader. And most importantly, they must have the courage to face anything. If they make a mistake, be brave to apologise. No matter it is a good thing or a bad thing, you must have the courage to face it bravely, so as to lead a happy life. Lastly, I always tell them this “I hope you can be a blessing to others. Be blessed enough to bless others.” When you have received enough blessings to bless others, it’s the happiest thing in life.